Ask Me Anything {and the Infertility Link Up}

A while ago I saw another infertility blogger do a “Ask Me Anything” post. I can’t remember who it was, so whoever you are, I hope you’re okay with me stealing your idea! (If it’s you, let me know and I’ll gladly give you credit here).

I absolutely LOVED the idea and thought it would be fun to try it here on my own blog. So if you have a question you’ve always wanted to ask me about our infertility / IVF experience, here’s your chance! Fill out the form below (or click here if you can’t see it), and ask away! I’ll answer as many questions as I can in upcoming blog posts.  If you choose to tell me your name, I will not publish it when I answer your question.

Now Onto the Link Up…Here’s How It Works

  1. Leave your link in the comments below. Please tell us a little about your post or describe it.
  2. At the bottom of your post, please link back to my blog so others can find the link-up. You can use the button below, if you wish. A text link is fine, too.
  3. Please visit at least one other blog in the link-up and leave a comment there. This is so important because the goal of a link-up is to generate community!
AmateurNester

Best Infertility Blog Posts of the Quarter

Every three months I share my favorite infertility-related blog posts from the past quarter.  I’m consistently amazed at the outstanding writing in the infertility community and this quarter is no exception.  Pour yourself a cuppa and take a few minutes to read through these excellent posts.

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Brandy from A Sweet Aroma with Why We’re Not “Just” Adopting.  I wish I had written this myself. Perfection!

“It is a marvelous gift to receive a child not of your flesh but still of your heart. It is valuable and brave and so so precious. I praise the Lord that He adopted us and that He sends children to parents and parents to children.
When you say “just adopt” it makes it seem like it’s no big deal.”

Amy Klein via Jewish Telegraphic Agency with At Passover Time, Remember Those Struggling With Infertility.  Appropriate for any religious holiday or celebration, really.

“Sometimes at joyous life-cycle celebrations — a bar mitzvah, a wedding, a bris — it can seem like everyone else’s life is proceeding according to plan: love, marriage, children, rinse and repeat.”

Trillia Newbell via Christianity Today with How Miscarriage Led to My Crisis of Faith.  

“What the Lord revealed to me was that my fear and despondency wasn’t an anomaly. Jesus was denied and abandoned by his friends. He pleaded in the garden for the Lord to take the cup away and then proceeded down the awful lonely road towards the cross alone. And how could we forget the cry of our Savior as he died on the cross: “‘Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?’ that is, ‘My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?’” (Matt. 27:46).”

Chelsea from Starbucks, Peace, and the Pursuit of a Baby with Impact.  People need to see that God both blesses and comforts.

“It was God’s way of saying, ‘Chelsea, the people around you don’t just need to see a God that always gives blessings, even though I can and do. These people around you right now need to see that I am also a God that walks with His children when they are hurting.'”

Angela from Rad Kitten with Infertility & My Nervous Breakdown.  One of the bravest and most honest posts I’ve seen on infertility and depression.

“I spent 2 and a half weeks, Monday-Friday from 9 am to 4 pm in intense group therapy, getting a medication regimen, and doing some one on one counseling. In the end, my psychiatrist declared the root of my problem was major depressive disorder, brought on by infertility.”

Candace from Our Misconception with When the Dust Settles.  We didn’t choose our infertility, but we can choose to fight back.

“You have a choice. I choose to advocate for my daughter, your future child and the next generation of miracles and sadly the ones that will experience empty arms. I cried way too many tears and endured too much heartache to just hang up my hat and walk away like my infertility never happened. It happened and it is something I will never forget. We fight for the future 1 in 8.”

Heather Avis via Storyline Blog with A Way to Stay Grounded When Your Dreams Are Shattered.  A beautiful meditation on picking up the broken pieces.

“While my womb will forever remain empty, my arms will forever be full. My original idea of what is best for my life was greatly lacking, and I never would have known the fullness of my potential if not for the pain of the loss of my initial plans.”

Thoughts or comments?  Which blog posts moved or challenged you these past few months?  Feel free to share a link in the comments below.  

Redeeming Suffering: Melissa’s Infertility Story

Each week I interview someone who has experience infertility firsthand. This week, I’m happy to interview Melissa Danisi from Self Talk the Gospel. I was introduced to Melissa a few months ago through our mutual friend, Jenny, and I just love what she does on her blog. I’m so excited for her to share her story with you today.

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Q. Tell us a little about yourself.

My name is Melissa Danisi and I live in the Central Valley of California with my husband of 9 years, Santino. I have the privilege of working at The Well Community Church, serving on the Spiritual Formation team in which I help women grow in their faith and look to God in the midst of doubt, unbelief, leadership, pain, suffering, and a multitude of other circumstances. I encourage and equip women through pastoral care and God’s word. I am currently getting my Master’s Degree in “Pastoral Care to Women” from Western Seminary.

I am passionate about helping others live a life wholly devoted to the Lord, and have written a few bible studies (Ephesians, Philippians, Sermon on the Mount, and Spiritual Disciplines) that help people grow in their love and understanding of Scripture. Prior to that, I was a public school teacher for 8 years, with my last few years teaching reading intervention to low-income/ESL students.

Some quirky things about me: I have been a vegetarian for 17 years (which is funny/interesting since I married into an Italian family), I don’t drink coffee but I love tea and sparkling water. I used to be an extrovert but now I’m an introvert according to Meyers-Briggs. I love walking, minimalism, nachos, slow mornings, solitude, and books. This year I have a goal of reading 52 books, that’s one a week and so far I’m on track! My greatest joy of all is helping others love God more, and I hope the words below help you do just that. [Read more…]

Weekly Infertility Link Up

The Tuesday link-up is a few days late this week.  My apologies for not posting on Tuesday like I usually do.  I realized around 10pm Monday evening that I hadn’t written a link-up, and to be honest, sleep seemed like a better choice!  But better late than never, right?

I can’t wait to read what you wrote this week!

Here’s How It Works

  1. Leave your link in the comments below. Please tell us a little about your post or describe it.
  2. At the bottom of your post, please link back to my blog so others can find the link-up. You can use the button below, if you wish. A text link is fine, too.
  3. Please visit at least one other blog in the link-up and leave a comment there. This is so important because the goal of a link-up is to generate community!
AmateurNester

Intended Parents & Surrogacy: Questions to Ask

Today’s post is a guest post from Carol Duckworth, Information Systems Manager from Center for Surrogate Parenting, Inc. She writes about some questions intended parents need to answer for themselves as they navigate the surrogacy process.

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We know that surrogacy is the only way for some parents to have a baby, but that’s not why it has become popular. Through surrogacy, parents like you can finally realize their dream and have a baby of their own. However, we know that choosing surrogacy can present many emotional challenges for you. For example, you may feel uncertain about your relationship with the surrogate. Plus, there is the added challenge of telling your friends and family members about your decision to choose surrogacy when you announce that someone else is pregnant with your child.

Your Relationship with the Surrogate

Many intended parents are concerned about the relationship they’ll have with the surrogate mother. Will you be required to keep in touch with her after the baby is born? How much information will she share with you about the pregnancy? This may be different for each surrogate and intended parent.  [Read more…]