Each week I interview someone who has been through infertility firsthand. This week, Jessica from A Hummingbird Paused shares her infertility story. Enjoy!
Q. Tell us a little about yourself.
I’m 28 years old and live in Phoenix, Arizona. I’ve been married to my best friend for almost 6 years and we have 2 fur babies; one is a Maltese (Henry) and the other is a Chihuahua mix (Sienna). Both were rescues and they bring so much joy to my life, I can’t imagine being on this journey without them.
I’ve always been very organized and thought I had my life all planned out. I wanted two kids before 30, and I was confident that would happen. I have always been very careful with birth control until I felt the time was right to start trying. Sadly, the idea I had in my mind of how my life would be didn’t exactly match reality. I’ve spent the last 4+ years trying to get pregnant and it’s changed everything. My relationships, finances, my dreams for a future. Infertility has taken so much from me. And for a long time I was very depressed and felt like a victim. “Why me?” There was a lot of comparison and wondering what I did wrong to deserve this.
I’ve since come to realize that none of us have done anything wrong. I believe that we are all here on this earth to learn and to grow. Everyone has their own challenges and trials in life, and what matters is how you choose to react when things don’t go your way. This isn’t easy and it’s taken me a long time to get to this point, but I really feel that I’m a better person because of everything I’ve been through. And I’m blessed to be a part of this community and for all of the amazing friendships I’ve made along the way. [Read more…]