Infertility Has a Purpose (& the Weekly Link Up #6)

purpose of infertility

“Nothing is ever wasted in the garden of your life.  Even compost can serve a purpose.” – Holley Gerth, You’re Going to Be Okay

Many of you may have compost bins in your homes or your yards.  They’re kind of disgusting aren’t they?

Compost is made up of our throwaways and our spoiled remains.  Oh, and don’t forget to add the worms.

But all that gross-ness works together to make soil more fertile.  From all the nastiness flows beauty and new life.  Even trash has a purpose.  

purpose of infertility

For me, infertility has made me more intentional about how I spend my money.   The financial strain of treatment has made me really re-evaluate what our financial priorities are.  It’s also given me deeper gratitude for the money we do have because I realize that some people cannot afford to even consider IVF. 

Infertility has also made my husband and I be more intentional about our marriage.  We decided right away that we would not let our marriage become a victim of infertility.  We each deal with our struggle in very different ways, and it’s easy to see how infertility can tear marriage apart.  But we are determined not to go down that path.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” – Romans 8:28

What purpose has the trash of your infertility served?  Please share your thoughts in the comments below.  

  • I absolutely agree with you! As hard as it is to admit it sometimes, infertility DOES serve a purpose, and it’s not to torture or break us. It’s to make us stronger, more humble, and I wholeheartedly believe we will be better mothers because of it.

  • Like finding your purpose… 😉

  • Love that you do this link up!!!

    • Lisa Newton

      Thanks, Caroline! I love connecting with everyone who links up!

  • What a beautiful, positive way of thinking. You will be blessed. You are in my prayers.

    • Lisa Newton

      Thanks for the kind words and prayers, Lisa!

  • Hi! I am SO sorry to hear about your current path down the infertility trail. I know. My husband and I spent time on the same road but I too can see how God used it to bless us greatly. It brought me, a project manager, A-type kinda girl to my knees. And through it all? Closer than I have ever been to Jesus. And it brought the most delightful treasures from the ashes: two precious girls, now 3 and 5, a closer relationship with my husband, a willingness to let go of my idea of a perfect life and schedule. Most surprising has been this love of writing for Christ, the people and places it has led me to. I pray your family and all on this site affected by infertility will hang in there. God hears your cries, He knows your tears and this time will not go wasted! Blessings.

    • Lisa Newton

      Thanks for such kind words and for sharing your story, Michelle. Hearing stories like yours gives me hope.

    • Jen

      Michelle, this post was so encouraging. I can relate except I’m still in the trial portion. I actually teach Project Management, clearly demonstrating my type A personality. We’ve been trying to conceive for 4 years. Still praying daily and hoping every month for a miracle. Thank you!

  • What an inspiring post for those who are infertal.

  • Heidi

    Bringing a new follow and thanks for posting from Lovely Thursdays! I’ll be reading along with your journey from here on out, and keeping you in my prayers. 🙂

    • Lisa Newton

      Thanks so much, Heidi!

  • I struggled with infertility for a long time and still do, even though I have children. I can tell you it has served great purpose in my life. It has made me more intentional, more empathetic, and more grateful for those things I have been blessed with. Thank you for sharing and for reminding us all that we can find great abilities through our most difficult times.

  • Amy

    So true, yet so hard to remember in the midst of everything! I agree that infertility helped us be more intentional about marriage. We knew that it could wreak havoc in that area if we didn’t put effort into supporting each other. I think infertility has also made me more aware of other people who experience difficulties in life. I am more compassionate and understanding of others’ life circumstances than I would have been before. Infertility is still part of my life, even though I’m a mom through adoption now, but it is not the all consuming ache that it once was. Knowing that I have survived and have a story to tell gives me more confidence in coming alongside others who are dealing with the difficulties if infertility. You have a beautiful blog here! Thank you for sharing your journey!

    • Lisa Newton

      Thanks for sharing your experience and for your kind words, Amy!

  • We’re close by at Sharing His Beauty linkup today. I admire what you are doing here at Amateur Nester for there are more of you seeking fertility than you may ever know. Honestly, I never had this problem, but my first husband left when our son was only 14 months old. I didn’t remarry until that child was almost 11, and my second husband and I had no children as between us we had three. However, being a stepmom to children 2200 miles away isn’t the same. I longed for more babies to cuddle and dreamed of the day I’d be a grandma. My son decided he didn’t want to be a father so there are no grandchildren and nothing to do about that except love all the ones I meet at church. I tell you my story so you will know there are many infertile fields in this life. You have chosen to minister to the most painful of them, and I will be praying for you and your blog.

    • Lisa Newton

      Thank you, Sherrey, for sharing your story and for your kind words of encouragement.

  • Wow, you are very positive! I have never experienced infertility, but I know it has to be one of the hardest trials to face. Keep going strong! Things will work out for you!

    • Lisa Newton

      Thank you, Charlee Anne!