Well, our IVF cycle was a bust. We got our negative beta yesterday.
The morning got off to a rough start, as the on-call phlebotomist the clinic hired was late. (Since our clinic does everyone’s IVF at the same time, everyone also has their betas on the same few days). We were the first couple to arrive, and the waiting room had filled with three other couples by the time we were called in for our turn.
While we waited, a couple walked in with their 3-year old son. I know he was 3, because the mom promptly announced it to another couple who was waiting. I guess she knew the other couple, because she loudly exclaims, “Oh, this is your third blood test! Congratulations!” (A third beta means you got a positive second one). Then she asks, “So, do you want a boy or a girl? It will be an April baby!”
My husband and I are looking incredulously at each other whole time, like, Could this woman be any more insensitive?
When we were finally called back for our turn, the nurse couldn’t look us in the eye, so I immediately knew it was bad news. I asked for the results of the first beta and broke down in the chair when she told me. I felt bad for the poor phlebotomist who had to draw blood as I was sitting there sobbing and shaking.
Our RE wasn’t there, so I’m going to call tomorrow and request an follow-up appointment just to talk about what went wrong.
We’re going to have to take at least a 6-month break before we try another cycle. I’d be willing to do a FET, but that’s not an option since none of our embryos made it to freeze this time. We’ve already paid for one more cycle, but hubby is a high school football coach (in addition to being an English teacher) and starts working 80-hour weeks next month through December. It’s a very stressful time and another IVF cycle during this time would be incredibly difficult logistically and emotionally.
I’m very disappointed for yet another failed cycle, and for the wait we’re going to have to endure to try again. I mean, we transferred 3! I thought for sure at least once would stick.
So now we’re just praying for God’s guidance- we really need him to be clear as to what we should do. Please pray for peace, comfort, and a sense of purpose for us. I’m very much dreading the next few months. My hubby has football to distract him, but football season is very difficult for me even without this disappointment. Also, please pray for my physical well-being. I’ve had pretty intense hormone withdrawals after the other failed cycles so I’m not expecting anything different this time.
Thanks for all the love and support. My heart goes out to anyone else who received bad news this weekend.
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